I watch with interest the changes to my hands. The nobs. The skin changes. The dark spots. It’s the roadmap of my life. Some of you may know what I’m taking about. A lifetime of typing, taking care of children, gardening, etc. are all shown on our hands.
There are a million articles on the internet about how to “fix” your hands. To get rid of the nobs on your joints. Smooth your skin. Get rid of the age spots. I say – F*** it! to all that. This is me. My hands are changing. They look older. Life.
I look at my hands with awe. I use them as a reminder of all that I’ve accomplished!
It’s no news that things change as we get older. Aging “well” does not have to be about paying for changes to your body (although no judgment there … getting older means we can shed judgment!) but I think aging well is to living fully, one day at a time. Really loving yourself and those around you, appreciating all the beauty, and squeezing every minute out of every day.
I used to think my dog walk in the morning was an opportunity to get things done. Look at my phone. Get my heart rate up. But I’ve changed. Now I take awe walks . I make sure that I see the beauty in five things every morning —one for each of my kids, one for Lily and, of course, one for me. It forces me to concentrate on something other than my knees, or how tired I might feel or even what’s coming up that day.
Recently I looked in the mirror (at my hair, which I’ve never liked) and realized that I’m not going to change it. I’m done with that anxiety producing part of my life! I don’t have to change anything more about me! We now get to embrace and love ourselves. This, my friends, is the joy of these life changes. It’s really freedom.
Let’s flip the narrative of invisibility. Of our kids moving away, which leaves us missing them and wondering what’s next and who we are. Let’s look at our changes with awe. With admiration. We earned all of these changes and now is our time to enjoy them.
Me and my beautifully worn hands are off for our awe walk. I am smiling at all the joy my hands experienced thus far, and the more joyous experiences to come!
XOXO
Jessica