That would be the typical blog for today, right?  Being thankful for the abundance of what we have?  But, you don’t need me to remind you of that.

Today, I want to remind you to be selfish.

If you’re anything like me, and some of you are, you take care of every one else first.  You do, do, do but not for you.  I’m often too afraid to be selfish and worry that it will take away from those I take care for.  But, if I’ve learned anything thus far, it’s that taking care of myself has to be at the top of my list.

You’ve all heard of the Airplane Oxygen Mask Theory, right?  Where you need to take care of yourself first (your mask goes on first), before you can give to others.    The notion is that when it’s only when you take care of you first, that you are able to help others.

When you feel like you are lacking, the answer is not always to give to feel better.  When you are depleted, it’s often best to do something for yourself.  It can be as simple as taking the paper and a cup of coffee for five minutes alone or with your favorite family member, after you cooked, cleaned and entertained everyone else all day!

Last night a friend took me aside and, knowing that I’m not a lover of the holidays and am going through some transitions right now, offered me a quiet place to spend some time this weekend.  My first inclination was to use my “I’m fine.  I don’t need any help,” line.  But then I realized that I am in need of a little R & R.  And, I am the most service to the most people if I am rested and nurtured enough to use to my gifts and talents, rather than running ragged responding to every single request in my Inbox (so to speak).  So, instead I said, “Thanks! That would be great!”

It’s ok that sometimes my hands are needed to put on my own oxygen mask.  And the same is true for you.  So, in the midst of being with those you love … take a moment for yourself.  You might even find that it will give you more focus and energy to appreciate the abundance of what’s right in front of you!

Have a great being thankful day!  XO