We all know the easy things to do in life — listen without interrupting, follow through, doing the right thing in the moment.  But it is also quite easy to run from the difficult things in life – to force our focus off ourselves and on to others.  Even in my blogs, I sometimes write about things that are easy to accomplish – simply missing the tough stuff.

Yet, if we want to succeed in love and life we must not only do the little things, hold hands, pay attention, think of others first, we must also challenge ourselves to do the hard work.

Hard work pays off.  Look, being physically and emotionally healthy is hard work. Finding and maintaining a successful relationship is hard work. Raising kids is hard work. Getting organized is hard work. Setting goals, making plans to achieve them, and staying on track is hard work. Even being happy is hard work (true happiness that comes from what you chose in life).

Hard work goes hand-in-hand with acceptance. One of the things you must accept are those areas of your life that won’t succumb to anything less than hard work. Perhaps you’ve had no luck finding a fulfilling relationship. Maybe the only way it’s going to happen is if you accept you’re going to have to do what you’ve been avoiding – the hard work of looking at your own behaviors and fears.

Maybe you want to lose weight. Maybe it’s time to accept that the path to your goal requires a discipline of diet and exercise (both hard work).   Maybe you want to make more money … that means working harder.

We achieve a whole new level when go for what we want with full abandon – regardless of how painful or fearful we are.  The truth is, when we surrender to our fear, it becomes our ally instead of our enemy.

What does this mean for me?  I want a better relationship with my loved ones and I’m going to look at my own actions first instead of pointing my finger at them.  I’m going to be more patient for the next thing/person/event in my life (patience is hard work for me!).   And, I’m going to slow down and take the time to breath.

Can you hear me breathing?

Have a great Saturday!