On a day when we are supposed to focus on “mom,” it hits me that there are many people who don’t have that title, that deserve love from me today.  There have been many “moms” in my life over the years.  People who have taken care of me after my mom was gone, people who were there for me in times when I couldn’t do for myself.

There is no right or wrong way to celebrate Mother’s Day and there are so many different kinds of “moms” out there. No one-size-fits-all. In fact, I think there are many people who are not getting cards or praise from us and they should.  There are also many people who don’t find this day particularly happy.

To my friends who have lost a child – I am so sorry.  I know this is a day of mourning and not a day of celebration.  Whether it was your only child or you have more – this day will be filled with love and with heartache.  My heart is with you today.

To my friends who are motherless, this is a tough day.  I tell my mom as often as I can, that I love her.  I wonder if she can hear or feel me.

To my friends who chose not to have children or couldn’t, life is not black and white and there is no right or wrong to how we end up living our lives.  Enjoy today and embrace the love you’ve given to others.

To those who have given up children for adoption.  You are the most selfless of us all.  Every decision opens new doors and directions not just for us but for all those involved.  I hope you have peace in your decision today.

To you single dads out there.  Celebrate all you’ve done.  It is not easy doing it as a woman.  It must be so much harder filling both roles.  This day is not just for women so enjoy it too!

Yesterday I heard about a 61 year old woman, whose husband just died, and she is now raising someone else’s 6 year old by herself.  Wow!  To those of you raising someone else’s child … you are amazing.  To all the step-moms and foster moms out there — we celebrate you!

This really should be a day to thank someone.  Someone who fit that role for you whether for a minute, a day or your lifetime.  So, let’s do something really fantastic — Let’s go thank that special someone in our lives.  Everyone deserves love today.

Happy Love Day.