Before I went to law school, I was in a relationship that I needed to leave. I felt bad doing it because this person needed my help, and I was the “helper.” But, I knew it was time to go. Over a big glass of wine, a friend suggested I try a certain visualization. I had no idea what she was talking about and I never tried it.
Last week, an acquaintance of mine told me that it was time to leave a long marriage and he was heartbroken about doing so. He felt that he had a cord or (soul) tie to this person and he didn’t know how to let go. I felt sad. Life can be so difficult sometimes.
However, as he was talking, that old visualization came to my mind. As if I could finally understand what my friend was telling me oh-so-many years ago. I shared it with him and I thought I might share it with you too. I think it’s meant for all relationships or situations where we have to move on but feel bad/sad/scared doing so. Hopefully it won’t take you 30 years (like me) to understand it:
Visualize a beautiful walking bridge in your mind. Imagine yourself standing on the far end of this bridge. Now imagine the person you are wanting to cut the cord with or end the relationship with, is standing on the opposite end of the bridge. When you feel ready, you must first begin walking toward the person. Allow the person to walk toward you, meeting you half way. Once you are with in eye contact with one another you can begin your inner dialog. Tell the person what your feelings are. This is not a time to be angry or be holding grudges – you are releasing the ties. Tell the person that you are sorry for all of the things you said or did that hurt him/her. Tell him/her that you are forgiving him/her for all the hurtful things that were said or done in your relationship. Say your good-byes, wishing each other well in your separateness. Turn around and walk off the bridge. You may feel that the other person remains on the bridge. Sometimes takes longer for the other person to disconnect from your energy. You just keep walking.
I’ve tried to teach my children this valuable lesson: There will be times where we have to move on from a relationship or situation. Where the energy is damaging or negative or just not right and holding us back. Don’t feel bad. If you are living your truth and doing it with love in your heart, it will be alright.
Have a wonderful start to your day!