I’ve had a serious seven-day period.  Some of my experiences felt like being hit by a Mack truck.  Others felt like the universe totally opening up to me.  Today would have been my mom’s 75th birthday and the moon was an absolutely beautiful expression of the “wow” she brought to my life.

In keeping with my week and her birthday, I want to give you my lay-persons list (well, at least the things I’m focusing on) of 10 things I think we should eliminate to live a more centered, passionate and authentic life:

1. Give up your need for control.
In the last five months, my life has made a complete change.  I’m not sure why but I can tell you one thing for sure – I’ve made an enormous effort to give up control of almost everything – situations, events, people, etc.  I’ve just allowed things to happen … and I must tell you it turns out pretty well!

2. Give up your need to be right.
I’ve become a student of others’ opinions.  I listen and try to understand. Would I rather be right or would I rather be kind? Wayne Dyer

3. Give up blame and negativity.
And the point of keeping these going is …?

4. Give up complaining.
Feel bad about something?  Complaining won’t help.  In fact, it’ll just keep it in the fore of your mind.  Stop the complaining and you’ll realize that problems can be blessings in disguise.

5. Give up trying to impress others.
Just be yourself.  It feels happier (and more authentic) that way. And, when you love the real (and flawed you), you’ll find that others will be drawn to you.

6. Stop fighting change.
I’ve had more change in the last five months, in all areas of my life, than in the last 10 years.  Embracing change has helped me move from A to B and now to C. It just feels better!

7. Give up your fears.
My new mantra: Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s your tape. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.

8. Give up excuses.
We’ve all got them.  Send them out with the garbage person.  Our excuses get us stuck and are just mind chatter – they’re not real.

9. Give up the past.
This one’s difficult.  Especially when the past looks better than the present and the future is scary.  When you long for the past you miss the present and ignore the excitement of the future.

10. Give up attachment.
I’m new at this one so bear with me.  Let’s try to detach from others and from things. I don’t mean giving up on the ones we love – but rather realizing that “attachment” is fear-based and love is not.  They can’t coexist.  Give up needing something or someone and you’ll experience that absolutely pure and selfless love you’re looking for.

Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls.  Joseph Campbell

Have a fantastic weekend everyone!