“We need to learn to set our course by the stars, not by the lights of every passing ship.”  Omar Nelson Bradley

Every day, there are so many details to be managed.  So many distractions. So many demands placed upon us. No wonder we end up allowing other people and circumstances to set the agendas for our lives.  I’ve done it.  You’ve done it.  It’s almost a given — almost acceptable, right?

No.  It’s not acceptable because letting circumstances dictate our lives ignores our own big picture.

We know a few things for sure.  1. The time here is finite.  2. You don’t want someone else producing your life show.  3. You know the key is to figure out what makes life meaningful for you.

This weekend I talked with someone at the gas station.  She had to pay for her gas inside (as did I because I wanted a gas station treat!) and she told me that the only way she can afford gas money is cleaning houses (she bought $14.55 in gas).  And, the reason she needs gas money is so she can take classes at the local college and become a nurse.  And, the reason she wants to be a nurse is so she can help others and be independent herself!  That’s some big picture.  Oh, she’s 22 years old.

This young woman was connecting her dreams to reality in a big picture way.

I had a dream.  I wrote it down five years ago.  I hid it because I never thought it could be a reality.   I wanted two things: First, a life away from a negative situation.  Second, I wanted to work with like-minded people.  I kept that big picture in mind.  I never thought I’d get there.  I really thought I was stuck forever but I didn’t let go of the dream.

I just want to remind all of you (and me and my kids), that we shouldn’t sell ourselves short.  And, I mean it when I say, if you can think of it you can achieve it. 

So, do something every single day to bring yourself closer to making your big picture a reality.  If you don’t know what you want from life – start dreaming.  Say no to those things that pull you away from your dreams.  Have goals that give you the courage and strength to resist being swayed by the agendas of others.  Those people who dictate your life and how you feel about yourself, are almost always wrong because they are seeing it all through their own life filter – not yours.

This is your life.  Your big picture.  You must be the star to have a box office smash hit.  And, please let’s all remind ourselves that the only regrets we should ever have (and I hope you have none) are those we chose – not the ones we let someone else choose for us.  When we choose our life’s path, there really are no regrets.

Have a great start to your week!