I was asked this question about two weeks ago and it’s taken me this long to respond. People talk, write and cry about this topic.  People marry their “soul mate” and then divorce that soul mate.  How does that happen?

So, what is a soul mate and do you get more than one?

According to Greek mythology, humans were created with four arms, four legs and a head with two faces. However, fearing their power, Zeus split them into two separate beings, leaving them to search for each other for eternity.

The Chinese legend is that there’s a red string of fate tied around the ankles of those that are destined to meet. The cord may stretch but it will never break.

According to Jewish scriptures, each person has been given a romantic partner — called a bashert, a lifelong connection. It’s said that 40 days before a man is born, G-d calls out the name of his soul mate. I guess that’s a match made in heaven!

Almost every religion or culture has the concept of a soul mate – the notion that there’s a person who fits perfectly for another. I can’t deny that there’s something to this soul mate thing. I’ve had such life experiences. But do you get more than one? What happens when you meet your soul mate, get married and he/she dies. Then, you meet someone later in life and you realize that they also were “meant” for you?

I think there are two kinds of soul mates: platonic and romantic. And, I think you get more than one of each (how greedy is that?!). 🙂

When I look at some of my closest friends, I know that we’re mirrors for each other. We understand each other in that quiet, knowing way. We empower one another. We are soul mates.

A romantic soul mate is a more difficult proposition. These are the people who you never want to release, even when they’re bad for you.  These are the people who teach you how to love, how to compromise, how to forgive, how to let go.  Sometimes they stay forever and sometimes for a nanosecond.

Not every person you date or marry will be your soul mate.  But sometimes the person you marry and divorce can be your soul mate because you got wonderful children or had important life experiences.  I even believe that you may be the soul mate for someone but he/she may not be your soul mate – make sense?

So what’s the difference between a soul mate and someone whose just in your life?  In true lawyer form my answer is: You’ll know. They leave an imprint. They feel important. They’re your mirror, or you theirs. They allow you (without judgment) to be who you really are and they allow you (without judgment) to see who you really are. If this isn’t happening — they’re not your soul mate.

So, my friend – that’s my answer and I’m sticking to it (for now). 🙂

Have an amazing week everyone!