One of my boys has the really bad habit of singing a song that no one wants stuck in their head, and before you know it, you are singing Christmas songs in July, or the Wheels on the Bus … know what I mean? It’s a royal pain in the a** habit that drives us all crazy!
The last two days “what are you waiting for” has been popping into my head. Did I hear it somewhere? Is someone trying to send me some message? Am I losing it? Maybe all of the above!
As humans we tend to be aiming or striving for something—our Utopia of the moment. Of course there’s no such thing. We will not eventually “arrive” and “have it all.” We are always in a state of transition (read “resetting”) and if we miss the reset, then we miss life. This is not to say that having ambition and trying to achieve things is a mistake. It’s not. But it can be if we don’t enjoy the process along the way and only focus on the end result.
A friend reminded me today that every tree does the same thing every year. It grows the most beautiful green leaves. Then it transitions to a new color in the fall, and as winter approaches, the tree drops its leaves and waits for the next season to start all over again. But all the while it is growing, even during the winter, it’s growing and changing.
It is easy to take things for granted: like good health, good family and friends, a stable job, and a nice house. I want to focus on the quality of my life and my well-being rather than what I have. In other words, I want to be what I am supposed to be—a “human being,” not a “human having” or a “human doing.” I want to enjoy the journey of this next year – not the destination. We’re never going to get this time back, so let’s focus on each freaking minute!
Most of our happiness comes from shared experiences with others, memories which will linger in our hearts and be recalled at will. If we are content in ourselves, we can appreciate these moments rather than blowing through them looking for the next thing.
What are you waiting for? Do you find yourself waiting for the right moment? The ideal relationship with your partner or a friend? Are you waiting for the kids to call or come home? Will that “one day” ever arrive and make everything “ok?”
It sounds morbid to acknowledge that our days here limited, and it’s scary to realize that none of us can ever know how many we have. But, we can know that in our final moments, it’s unlikely we’ll say “I wish I had waited longer,” or “I wish I had stayed angry longer,” or “I wish I had played it safer.” No, most of us will get to that point and say, “I’m sorry and I love you.” Most of us will look back at our experiences, not our clothes or our weight or hair style. So, let’s appreciate those things NOW. I’m glad I’ve been saying that phrase in my mind – it’s been a good reminder that I’m not actually going to wait for anything. What have you been meaning to do or say—and what are you waiting for