I was talking with some friends last night and I said that I had a lot of big decisions to make but that I’ve had difficulty making them (which is not the norm for me … I’m the person who can make big decisions and quick). We agreed that this was typical and started to explore the individual decisons. One decision is my desire to find a house on Medicine Lake (to be fair, they don’t come on the market very often but when they have, I’ve opted out, for a variety of reasons). The other is the decision to keep or move our offices out of DT. So what gives? Why am I having trouble making these decisions?
One of the things I’ve learned (and talk at length about to my kids) is not pushing a decision. Sometimes not making a decision and just being open to what happens next (having faith) allows the “universe” to put the next steps in front of you. I remember when I was teaching and was thinking of law school, I just could not decide what to do. When I got into law school, the pressure was more intense. But, I decided to just give it a week and I asked the “universe” to help me make the decision. That week, my teaching contract was not renewed – for a bizarre reason one could never have predicted. The universe gave me the answer.
The question is, how do we get the universe to listen and work with us rather than against me?
I have four things I think about when I need the universe to give me some direction:
- I employ the law of actions. I keep engaging with the universe. I keep moving forward. Standing still will not help and no action means no results. I also engage in actions that support where I want to go (I don’t mean looking at Zillow every night … but I do it anyway!)
- What you do (or don’t do) is what you get. I don’t believe in chance. I think every decision I make takes me to the next one. Procrastination has a consequence. There is no escaping the law of cause and effect.
- I believe my thoughts and feelings matter. I think they attract energy. Don’t you believe that negative attracts negative and positive attracts positive? I force myself to focus on the positive, even when it feels like I am in a big, black hole.
- The last one … and I struggle with this because of all the injustices in the world … is that we all have the power to change the conditions of our lives. I believe that our power of choice is pivotal to how we live our lives. We can choose nothing, to sit still, to be negative or we can choose the opposite (no matter how tough our situation is).
Maybe these are just so basic, but for me I need to remind myself (like a mantra) that action, consequence, energy and choice are what creates or continues my relationship with the universe.
As for these decisions that I’m struggling with – I think there’s something else out there that is going to happen, and it is that next “thing” that will put these other decisions in a place where I can easily move right or left. But whatever that “thing” is – I’m not waiting for it. I will continue to move forward and put out the positive energy to help me understand and be open to what is next.